I did something this morning that I’ve never done before. In fact I did it TWICE!
And then I wondered “What the HELL was THAT all about?”
Well here’s the story …
Generally, as I browse FB, I see mostly positive and/or innocuous stuff which is what I WANT to see. Every now and then I might see something I don’t particularly like or even find offensive, but usually when I do, I just scroll past it and honor everyone’s right to to post whatever they please.
But THIS morning, THIS morning it was different. As I was glancing at my feed, I spotted a “joke” that I believed was offensive to plus size women. And instead of ignoring it as usual, I politely commented that I found it offensive FROM MY PERSPECTIVE.
That was scary for me to do. Like I said, I pretty much follow the “Live and Let Live” principle but today, it felt like the right thing to do to SAY something!
As I scrolled a little further . . . I found a photo of a group of devout religious people praying. The photo had been “edited” in a VERY derogatory way with an equally derogatory caption. This time I reported the photo as abusive to FB.
But these 2 actions had me asking myself. . . “What is THIS all about Steph? Why did these things offend you so much this morning?
And then I got my AHA moment . . .
You see I’ve been specifically focused on being kinder to myself. Of loving myself EVEN THOUGH this or that hurts. Or this or that itches uncomfortably. Or I think I “should” have done that thing that has been on my (impossible-to-ever-get-done) to-do list.
I’ve been asking my Divine Self to point out to me when and how I am being unkind, unloving and indeed ABUSIVE to myself and let me tell you, it’s been an EYE-OEPNER! 😉
But it’s also been EXTREMELY rewarding!
Because I find that the kinder I am to myself, the more energy I have to get things done. The things that make me happy, that bring me joy. The things that are bringing more of what I want into my life finally. And it is also helping me be a better coach/mentor for my clients because I am even more quickly spotting it when they are being self-abusive! You see we ALL do it and we do it so “normally” that it is just background noise – we tune it out without realizing the damage it is doing to ourselves.
So my Higher Self used Facebook as a tool for me this morning so that I could see the progress I’m making. I am no longer tolerating me being hurtful to me and so I felt compelled to take some action about the hurtful (from MY perspective) things I saw on FB today.
That’s called PROGRESS folks. Because, as a very dear friend always says to me (and has now become a standing joke between us) . . . . “Consciousness breeds change.”
We CANNOT change things that we cannot see. Only when we become consciously aware, are we able to invoke our power of choice!
Today, I choose to be kind to me. It is my sincere prayer and intention that YOU will do the same for YOU!