IT’S A PRIVILEGE!
Defining Moments…In Terms of Size
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I loved this reminder about how common place it is to define people in terms of size. It’s no wonder that at least here in the USA, even young girls have self-acceptance and low-self-esteem issues, contributed to heavily by the media incessantly promoting their very narrow (pun intended) version of size acceptance. The article’s author, Sassy Minx herself Lisa Clark, makes her point humorously which makes it easy to read, but no less meaningful!
THE ‘FAT’ vs. ‘THIN’ DEBATE . . . yawn . . . .
Enough.
Seriously, enough already.
Every year, when London Fashion Week rolls around, you will find me rolling my eyes at the complete predictability of it all.
In the same way that, every year, come what may, on the 27th December, you’ll be bombarded with celebrities pimping their exercise DVDs and the diet industry launching a never-ending supply of supposed ‘I-can-make-you-thin’ prodz, London Fashion Week sparks the same debate – fashion models are too skinny, there should be more voluptuous women on the catwalk, yada, yada, yada.
I’m a size 18. I’m hot. I have a gorgeous friend who is a size 8, she’s hot too. Society would like to label us ‘fat’ and ‘thin’ yet we both totally rock the bodies we’re in, because the size written on the label in our knickers, is NOT an indication of our awesomeness. Last night, I went to the dress rehearsal for our burlesque show on Saturday, and the girls I perform alongside are a truly delicious array of lovely shapes and sizes because, despite what the media will have you believe, girl-kind come in a gazillion different juicy-juicy forms, not just ’skinny’ and ‘fat’.
Putting a ‘voluptuous’ (which in media terminology usually means a UK size 12) model on the catwalk isn’t an insta-fix to the crazy-assed obsession we have with body image in our society right now, in the same way that highlighting how ’skinny’ someone is, or creating niche markets for ‘plus’ size girls won’t cut it either.
Last week, Adele was called a ‘little bit fat’ by Karl Lagerfeld, and then, when she won 7 Grammys at the weekend, the media celebrated the awesome talent of ‘curvy Adele’. What’s the size of her hips got to do with either Karl OR her freakin’ AMAZING talent?
Nothing. It’s bullshit.
As a self-esteem coach and agony aunt for Mizz magazine, I find myself continually exasperated/fucked off/annoyed by society’s endless need to label and define girl-kind by their body size, and as for the endless ‘fat’ and ‘thin’ debate, it just perpetuates the message that no matter what your size, as a girl/woman in the world, you’re never ‘quite’ good enough. Which, FYI, is simply not true. I work on a daily basis in all my work to ensure that girls and women of ALL shapes and sizes, love themselves JUST AS THEY ARE.
I know, controversial, right?
Niches, labels, ‘fat’ and ‘thin debates just continue to highlight the differences between girl-kind, which is why I’m on a mission to create media products that celebrate women in ALL their fabulous forms, not just for the clothes they wear or the size of their hips – don’t get me wrong, I LOVE clothes, shoes and make-up, but they most deffo don’t define me – but for their talents and skillz, their business savvy and their YOU-nique qualities too – get ready, the SASSY-fication o’ girl-kind is coming, g-friends – you in?
The future is bright, the future is girl-shaped. And FYI. That’s the shape you’re currently in, ‘k?!
CREDITS FOR THIS ARTICLE:
AUTHOR: Lisa Clark
FROM WEBSITE: The Sassy Minx
DIRECT LINK: http://www.thesassyminx.com/beauty-queen/the-fat-v-thin-debate-yawn/comment-page-1/#comment-3983
Do You KNOW Who You Are?
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DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE??
Let me start off by telling you who you are NOT.
You are NOT your fat.
You are NOT your bank account.
You are NOT your zip code.
You are NOT your degree/certification or lack thereof.
You are NOT your job title . . . even if that’s Mother/Father or Brain Surgeon.
You most certain are NOT your To-Do List or worse yet . . . your I HAVEN’T DONE list!
When we whip around our human experience, it’s way too easy to get caught up In all that human, physical stuff.
Oh I get we live in a physical world. I get that there are always errands to run, people to see and laundry that needs doing.
But don’t let all that divert your attention from who you really are.
And for goodness sake don’t let all that DEFINE who you really are!
You are an infinite being.
YES DAMMIT – Bloody INFINITE!!!!!
Your POWERS are immeasurable!
Your TALENTS are immeasurable!
Your ABILITY TO LOVE is immeasurable!
Get it? INFINITE – withOUT measure!
So don’t measure yourself by your dress size. Or your house size. Or your bank account size.
If you are having one of THOSE days, or THOSE moments, where you have temporarily forgotten who you REALLY are . . . try this little exercise.
Use your gift of thought to picture or feel or think about the ocean. When you have the picture/feeling or sensation firmly planted in your mind . . . start counting the drops of water in the ocean.
What? Ridiculous you say? Too many to count?
YUP! EXACTLY!
IMMEASURABLE!
JUST LIKE YOU!!!
Just like your heart. Just like how much happiness you bring to those who care about you.
Just like how much power you have to change someone’s life with a hug or a smile or those FABU chocolate chip cookies that only YOU can make.
And don’t you forget it!
(OK – well . . . maybe you should print this and cut it out somewhere to remind you . . . just in case!)
Namaste!
FAT: The Truth Behind the HYPE
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FAT is a word that has a potent impact when used as either a noun or an adjective. I found this post by Deborah Kauffmann, RD, LDN, helpful to have a bit of science to help us understand terminology more rationally and less emotionally.
UNDERSTANDING FAT
Some Fatty Basics
Like carbohydrate, dietary fat is composed of carbon, hydrogen and oxygen. 95% of dietary and body fat is in the form of triglycerides, composed of three fatty acids attached to one glycerol molecule.
There are three types of fatty acids: saturated, monounsaturated and polyunsaturated. This refers to if a fatty acid is saturated with hydrogen atoms along its carbon chain, or if it could hold one more (monounsaturated) or several more (polyunsaturated).
Foods from animal sources contain mostly saturated fatty acids and foods from plant sources contain mostly unsaturated fatty acids.
Fat in the Diet
It is recommended that 20 to 35 percent of each day’s intake should come from fat. Fat provides the most concentrated source of energy for the body. It spares protein from being used for energy so that it can be used to repair and build body tissue. Fat also aids in the transport and absorption of the fat soluble vitamins – A, D, E and K.
Fat also improves the flavor, texture and aroma of foods as well as delaying stomach emptying, helping to create the feeling of satiety after a meal.
“Fattening” Foods
There is no such thing as a “fattening” food. Foods high in fat do not lead to weight gain if eaten when hungry.
During digestion, fatty acids are freed from the glycerol molecule. The glycerol molecule is converted to glucose in the liver, and both fatty acids and glucose are taken up by the cells to provide energy. Fatty acids that are not immediately used for energy are stored temporarily as triglycerides in our fat cells (adipose tissue). In between meals, these are again broken down to fatty acids and glycerol to provide the cells with energy.
We Need Fat
People tend to think it’s best to eat no or very little saturated fat, but the truth is we need all three types of fat. Saturated fat is involved in regulating the expression of several genes, regulating hormones, cell messaging and immune function.
Saturated fatty acids may also help to stop the development of cancer cells and regulate the availability of polyunsaturated fatty acids including omega-3 fatty acids.
Monounsaturated fat and the right balance of omega-6 and omega-3 polyunsaturated fats (4:1 ratio) have been shown to protect the heart, reduce risk of cancer and diabetes, boost the immune system and help with many other medical conditions. Since omega-6 fats are plentiful in our typical diet (most vegetable oils), the focus has been to encourage people to increase intake of omega-3 fatty acids (fatty fish, flaxseed, walnuts) to get the right balance.
About Body Fat
Body fat (adipose tissue) protects vital organs from traumatic injury. Fat is part of every cell membrane and two-thirds of the brain is composed of fat. Fat is a major component of the retina, some hormones and hormone-like substances (prostaglandins), and the myelin sheath that covers our entire nervous system. A layer of subcutaneous fat maintains body temperature. It seems we are always hearing that a higher amount of body fat is unhealthy. Yet that is only true of a higher amount of visceral (deep abdominal) fat which is generally caused by lifestyle factors such as dieting, physical inactivity, stress, alcohol and smoking. In fact, research shows that a higher amount of genetically determined subcutaneous fat is associated with some health benefits – lower risk of heart disease, type 2 diabetes and certain forms of cancer.
I hope this clarifies some of the misunderstanding about dietary and body fat that exists in our culture. Looking forward to your comments and questions in the section below!
CREDITS FOR THIS ARTICLE:
AUTHOR: Deborah Kauffmann, RD, LDN
FROM WEBSITE: More of Me to Love
DIRECT LINK: http://www.moreofmetolove.com/blogs/entry/understanding-fat/
Is Your Past HAUNTING You? Overcoming the Past
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I realize that for many of us, overcoming the past and focusing on the future can be a speedbump. Poems about overcoming the past can be helpful and Spirit downloaded this one to me recently.
YOUR PAST HAS PASSED…NOW what?
Now What? Get it?
NOW?
Because now that you finished that sentence and are reading this one, it IS your future, and whatever you were thinking, feeling, being or doing a sentence or two ago, is brought forward energetically into NOW.
So NOW we want to create the most joyful moments we can because we want to bring JOY and PEACE and all those good kinda vibes forward right? At least if we want our future to be filled with THOSE kinds of good juju!
But what do we do about those past moments that we didn’t feel so happy or peaceful? What about those moments that may have felt downright yucky? What do we do about THOSE you may be asking.
Here’s the answer: “Leave ‘em in the PAST because
the time has PASSED!”
Yes, it’s true, you may have brought a bit of yucky energy into your present because you didn’t know any better or couldn’t do any better AT THE TIME.
But here’s the tricky bit — every time you revisit the Past . . . you are bringing it back AGAIN into the NOW . . . and into your future!
You actually re-activate the same yucky vibes every time you think about “that” person, “that” event, “that” situation.
Not very useful really is it?
There are only a couple of useful things to come out of re-visiting a past experience:
1. To course-correct – see where you went off your path so you can re-align with where you really want to go; or
2. To uplift your perception of it so that you actually generate new, more positive energy In your present.
It serves absolutely NO useful purpose to rehash an old hurt or painful wound otherwise. Oh I get how easy it is to fall back when you hear a certain song on the radio, or happen across an old photo while clearing up your desk . . . but the next time that happens . . . choose to remember reading this . . . and in THAT moment . . . DON’T GO into the pain.
Catch yourself! Become conscious of what you are feeling! Become conscious of the mind-chatter! Once you become conscious, you activate your ability to CHOOSE how you WANT to feel, what you WANT to do next!
Sometimes you’ll be ready to review the situation from a more neutral position and see if you can find the blessing and/or change your perception.
But sometimes all you need to do is just MOVE ALONG to the next thing. Put the picture back where you found it, change the radio station! You become pro-active in your own life when you make those decisions! The actions will lead you to better feeling thoughts instantly, if only because you won’t be dwelling on the past pain.
Better still you can re-focus your attention on something that opens your heart or puts a smile on your face! Here’s a few suggestions:
- Think of someone you really love
- Pat your pet
- Put on your favorite happy song
- Actually SING your favorite happy song
The second you choose a better-feeling thought or take a better-feeling action you take a giant leap forward towards a happier future and you get the added benefit of feeling better RIGHT NOW!
Pretty cool eh?
YOU MUST REMEMBER THIS . . .
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You MAKE A DIFFERENCE in the world by your presence.
You are ENOUGH just as you are.
You are AWESOME.
You are SPECIAL.
You are VALUABLE.
You are NEEDED.
You are WANTED.
You are CARED ABOUT.
You are LOVED.
You are BEAUTIFUL.
Now . . . .
Your mission, should you choose to accept it . . .
Is . . .
To . . .
BELIEVE IT!
Herman vs. Your Heart? Who Wins? Who’s Herman?
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THEY DON’T PLAY NICE!
I don’t know about you, but I’m guessing your inner voices don’t always “play nice” inside your head right? Especially when you want to do something new that feels a little scary!
It’s a topic I write about often because it’s a topic that is so much a part of our daily lives . . . our inner mind chatter.
It’s usually brutal isn’t it? I mean when I stop for a few minutes, even after all these years of self-development and self-improvement and consciousness awareness, blah blah blah, and I listen to what is going on in my head . . . I’m frequently astonished.
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It’s usually brutal isn’t it? I mean when I stop for a few minutes, even after all these years of self-development and self-improvement and consciousness awareness, blah blah blah, and I listen to what is going on in my head . . . I’m frequently astonished.
WHO’S HERMAN?
I’ve named my ego Herman. After Herman Munster in the old TV series. In my mind Herman was an OK guy who just often got it wrong while trying to be helpful. Our ego is trying to be helpful. It’s trying to keep us safe. That’s not a bad thing.
Clearly, we don’t want to be playing in traffic or sticking our wet hands into light sockets. Herman is good for protecting us from that kind of stuff.
But he honestly doesn’t know the difference between me playing in traffic, or me doing something different – like deciding to do more videos and article writing so that I can help more people. Because Herman doesn’t have the discernment to recognize WHY I’m doing something different. He only knows that “something different” means I might be unsafe . . . and that triggers him into “I better keep her safe at any cost” mode!
WHAT’S HE UP TO?
So how does that show up? Well for many of us, including me, one of the ways is procrastination. Instead of writing the new blog post, I decide to suddenly install a new plug in on my website. Or do the dishes. Or hang out reading Facebook posts. Or check my email 100 times.
Herman has it DOWN I tell you! He does an OUTSTANDING job of keeping me safe! All of those distractions keep me from writing the blog post! YAY Herman!
Oh . . . but . . . Divine Spirit is also telling me I’m here to serve. I’m here to help. I’m here to have fun and make money too! And that requires some conscious choices. Some focus inspired action.
HERMAN THE DRILL SERGEANT
The kind of focus inspired action that gives Herman a heart attack and makes him jump off the couch and start acting like a drill sergeant! Where he tells me to just “click here – it will only take a minute . . . ” and then another minute, and then an hour, and then a few hours, and then I STILL haven’t accomplished my inspired action and written the bloody blog post!
It may be something different for you. Maybe your goal is make more time for you. But suddenly you find that you have even LESS time because all kinds of “things” are getting in your way! That’s a sign that your Inner Herman is in charge!
It doesn’t matter WHAT your goal, dream, aspiration is. If it’s out of the “norm” for you . . . especially if it’s a stretch from your usual comfort zone . . . it’s most likely gonna kick your Herman into gear!
But here’s the really good news . . .
You know I always like to give you the good news right?
The Good News is that your Divine Spirit, Inner Wisdom, Universal Messenger, whatever you want to call it/him/her . . . has got your back!!
In times like this, I like to picture my Divine Spirit wearing a Superman cape! In this instance “he” swoops in and gives me the pep talk I need to extract myself from Herman’s well-meaning clutches!
Divine Spirit reminds me (and you) . . . that I have the power to make choices in my life that feel good. That I have the power to choose which voice I want to listen to. That I have the power to take a baby step closer to what I really really want and that I’m not doing it alone because all of the powers of the Universe are conspiring on my behalf for my highest good ALL THE TIME!
Yes!
All the powers of the Universe are conspiring on YOUR behalf for YOUR highest good ALL THE TIME.
But there is that “free will” thing . . . so you gotta ask ‘em for support . . . and once you do – BAM! They’re INSTANTLY on the J-O-B – just like Superman.
So Dear Ones . . . if you aren’t getting what you are wanting. . . start paying attention to what voices you are listening to! And if it’s your version of Herman, call in the calvary! Call in Superman, the Fairy Godmother, Jesus or anything or anyone else you want that will remind you that you have the power to choose again.
And . . . that’s certainly something I can help you with! Mentoring with me on an ongoing basis to give you a consistent boost may be exactly what you need right now! Here’s all the info!
REMEMBER THIS WEEK: It’s OK to tell Herman to “eff off” if necessary to maintain your Inner Peace!
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SO YOU ARE NOT FLAWLESS! NOW WHAT?
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One of the most damaging ways we muck up our inner peace is playing the comparison game. The image below says it all pretty clearly!
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Frankly, we’re just silly when we look at a picture in a magazine, or a model in a TV ad and then look down at our very human, non-air-brushed, non-photoshopped bodies and call ourselves ugly, fat, or whatever!
Trust me! No matter how pretty that model may be, s/he didn’t get out of bed looking THAT good!!! And, even if she did (NOT), that’s not to say that when SHE looks in the mirror, she sees herself as FLAWLESS!
Demi Moore, the well-known and acclaimed actress, was recently quoted in a magazine about how uncomfortable she feels about her looks — even after appearing in movies where she played a stripper and a military officer! Even HAVING a flawless body, doesn’t mean you FEEL GOOD or BELIEVE your body is beautiful!
So where does that leave us?
Actually in a really cool place!
IN CHARGE OF OUR OWN MINDS AND BELIEFS!
Yes! YOU HAVE THE POWER! Not the frickin media! You get to decide what’s beautiful to you. And when you do . . . I highly suggest you do it through the eyes of your heart and not your Inner Critic!
Your heart, your Divine Self, only has the capacity to see GORGEOUSNESS! And EVERYTHING is gorgeous through its eyes. Yes, even the flab, the cellulite, the dark circles under your eyes, the not-right hair or WHATEVER!
Divine Spirit doesn’t see any of that — and you have the power and the choice AND THE RESPONSIBILITY to choose what you see also!
So DO IT THIS WEEK! Ok??
OK!!
I’m 100% certain you will feel better about your body if you do!
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SIZE 12 TOO FAT TO MODEL
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Too fat to be a Pus Size Model – At Size 14?
The picture that caused a storm in the fashion world
Lizzie Miller is considered too large to model plus-size clothes. Is the reaction that followed the publication of this picture going to change that?
‘It’s a photo that measures all of three by three inches,” gushes Cindi Leive, editor of US Glamour in a post on the magazine’s blog, “but the letters about it started to flood my inbox literally the day Glamour hit newsstands.” The picture in question, illustrating a story about body confidence, has generated more than 700 comments on the site, and featured on the US Today morning TV programme. What does it show? A beautiful, creamy-skinned naked model . . . with a small roll of stomach fat.
Lizzie Miller, the 20-year-old model in question, agrees that it’s astonishing that, at 5ft 11in and 12.5 stone she’s considered a “plus size” model. “It’s sad,” she says. “In the industry anything over size six is considered a plus-size.” Miller, who is around a US size 12-14 (that is, either average or slightly below average) lost about 60lb when she was 13 but today she is considered too large to model for plus-size lines Marina Rinaldi (she says, “they like girls who are an 8-10″) or Elena Miro. She says that the overwhelming reaction to the tiny photograph, buried on page 194 of Glamour magazine “shows that the world is hungry to see pictures of normal women.”
One wouldn’t have thought this would be news. As Miller says, “pretty much every picture in a magazine or ad is airbrushed . . . I don’t think the public understands how much smoke and mirrors are involved in making women look like that.”
So does the reaction to this picture mean that the tide is turning? Hardly. Even after the deluge of emails, Leive hasn’t made a commitment to using average-sized women in fashion shoots, saying only that the magazine wants to celebrate “all kinds of beauty”. The outcome for Miller, though, has been more positive. She has received more offers of work since the picture was published. And her model agency, Wilhelmina, has told her that she mustn’t lose any weight.
(this is a copy of a post that appeared in http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/sep/02/lizzie-miller-model-fat
by Naomi Alderman, The Guardian, Wed 2 Sep 2009 00.05 BST)
Meet MAL DUANE,The Alpha Chick!
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One of the best ways we can maintain our inner peace is by moving out of our pain and into our Power. Today I have the great pleasure of being the Day 4 Host of author Mal Duane’s Virtual Blog Tour! Mal’s book Alpha Chick: Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power launches on Amazon on Tuesday February 14, 2012.
Mal Duane has triumphed over devastating life challenges to become an Alpha Chick extraordinaire. After having struggled with alcoholism as a young woman, Mal now has a dream marriage, a highly-successful business, and as a certified Professional Recovery Coach, is deeply involved with helping women discover and use their connection with the divine power to redefine their lives and step away from their pain. She also serves clients through the multi-million dollar real estate company that she built from scratch. As she strongly believes in educating women, she built a school in Konjila, West Africa that educates a hundred students annually, and created Holly’s Gift, an educational assistance fund, which will receive proceeds from the sale of each copy of Alpha Chick.
Alpha Chick, Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power is a model for any woman who dreams of having happiness, success, and fulfillment. It clearly guides the reader step-by-step in the process of becoming her own unique brand of Alpha Chick, using Mal’s simple 5-step formula for self-worth, freedom and transformation. The book is coming to Amazon on Tuesday February 14th, 2012 – Valentine’s Day. Mal says, “I chose Valentine’s Day because I wanted women to give themselves the gift of self-love on that day.”
Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Mal when I got to ask her a couple of power questions and spiritual practices.. I hope you enjoy it.
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Stephanie Rainbow Bell: What do you say to someone who asks: How do you go about discovering and uncovering your inner power?
Mal Duane: You will discover your personal power from your spiritual practice and from bringing truth into your life while to letting the need to resist go. The more we push against something, the more it drains our energy and our emotions. Embracing our divine selves as perfection releases many of the negative thoughts we create about ourselves. Someone else’s opinion of us does not define who we are either. We w
ere not created to suffer but were put on this earth to live with joy, abundance and purpose. When we can give away what we have learned in order to help others, we are standing in our power. The law of reciprocity brings more of the same to us.
Stephanie Rainbow Bell: Shifting from our pain into our power usually brings up some challenges! Will you please describe your top 3 keys to make the transition.
Mal Duane: The first most important keys to discovering your power is developing a spiritual practice daily. Through meditation or prayer you begin to discover who you truly are and not who you think you are. Our picture of ourselves is influenced by our past which no longer serves us. But through a spiritual practice we align ourselves with the present. Also the authentic voice will emerge instead of listening to the lower self or ego. We begin to develop clarity as to our purpose in life.
The second key is acceptance. In life, we can cling to denial so vehemently, that it may become all we know. It blocks out positive energy and binds us to the past. The main idea behind acceptance is to finally release what has happened in your past and stop resisting it, so you can approach life with a new attitude. Once you accept what has happened to you, you’ll notice that your attitude will change almost immediately. The things that have caused you so much pain know become lessons for the present moment. You are able to see threads of commonality in your past mistakes.
The third key is intention. When you set an intention you are creating something that has divine spirit behind it. Intentions are much more powerful than just setting a goal. Intentions empower us to take the action steps needed to create change in our lives. We create a positive magnetic force to move forward with positive behaviors.
Stephanie Rainbow Bell: Many of us who have made the journey into our inner peace and power use a variety of spiritual practices to help us stay balanced and centered. What are favorite spiritual practices to bring you back to center and help regain your power?
Mal Duane: I feel that a combination of meditation, prayer and journaling is the most powerful and beneficial approach. The mediation settles us, clears the negative energy that we hold on to. It allows us to access a higher consciousness so that we can make better choices in our lives. You discover your authentic voice during meditation.
Prayer is also so rewarding. I usually like to read something spiritual to stimulate my prayer for the day. I use my prayers to set my intentions for the day and send love to those in need. The third component is my journaling. This is where I record my insights from meditation, thoughts that come through to me from my higher consciousness. Some days I receive amazingly beautiful messages which are meant to be shared with others. I find great comfort in these messages because they bring me clarity when I feel I am involved in a conflict.
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I hope you enjoyed this interview with Mal Duane and that you’ll check out her book Alpha Chick: Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power at http://alphachick.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.html
There are a BUNCH of COOL benefits for you when you do!
10 Alpha Chick Mentors Share Their Wisdom on this
FR*EE 3-Day Online Event
February 7th, 8th & 9th, 2012
12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/8pm UK
Over the course of 3 days, Mal and her guests will be exploring the journey of AWAKENING your inner Alpha Chick, discovering your true MAGNIFICENCE, and learning how to TAKE ACTION to achieve your dreams.
Here’s Mal’s wonderful guest line-up:
- Mal Duane – Certified Professional Recovery Coach; author of Alpha Chick: Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power
- Lynn Serafinn – Coach; marketer; author of The 7 Graces of Marketing and The Garden of the Soul
- Christine Kloser – award-winning author; mentor to transformational authors and conscious entrepreneurs
- Paula Tarrant – Transition/transformation coach for women; Founder of Inspired Women Work
- Auriella ONeill – teacher, empowerment coach, radio host
- Dr. Joe Rubino – personal development trainer, success & life-optimization coach, bestselling author
- Brenda Adelman – MA in Spiritual Psychology, forgiveness coach, recipient of a Hero of Forgiveness Award, an award-winning actress
- Krystalya Marie’ – Energy healer for body, mind and spirit
- Lissa Coffey – Lifestyle and relationship expert, author of What’s Your Dharma and 5 other books, founder of CoffeyTalk.com.
- Chaney Weiner – Media expert, authority on human potential and personal development, founder of the Chaney Institute of Human Potential
This special 3-Day telesummit is Mal’s FR*EE gift to you,
to celebrate the launch of her book, which is coming
Tuesday February 14, 2012.
FREE GIFTS TOO!
When you buy Mal’s book on Tuesday February 14, 2012, Mal would like to give you the MP3 downloads of the Alpha Chick telesummit, PLUS invite you to attend a special teleclass at where she will personally take you through the five step process of transformation from the book Alpha Chick.
PLUS… you’ll also receive a complete library of beautiful personal development gifts from authors, speakers, coaches and other enlightened professionals from around the globe.
To claim your FREE pass to the Alpha Chick Telesummit
and read about the free gifts, go to:
http://alphachick.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.html
Thanks for reading! As usual, please feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.
AND… be sure to follow Mal tomorrow when the next stop on the Virtual Blog Tour is Debra Simpson, who will be interviewing Mal on the subject of law of attraction, personal power and gratitude. To visit that “stop” on the tour, go to http://debrasimpson.com/law-of-attraction-with-mal-duane/.
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